Hey guys! So it has been a while since my last post and you the ‘reader’ probably hadn’t even noticed or perhaps reading this now thinking “who does this guy think he is? Shakespeare or something?”. Anyway I’ve been thinking about this subject for a while and didn’t want to write some soppy post about true love and all that bullcrap but found that from my experiences from relationships and love I have noticed a quite a few things about myself and in people.
So where on to start? I guess falling in love for some people may be different to others but most people will say that when they first saw (or first really saw) the person their heart started to beat fast, their hands started to sweat and perhaps they even became speechless. I think its almost imperative to note that this kind of love is amazingly intense and powerful but with that comes a great deal risk. You see if this feeling happens before you have even had the chance to converse with this radiant woman you are in the position of utter blind love without any other logical components in the mix.
Now I’m not saying that this is true for every situation like this but lets say on average its generally not a good idea to become utterly in-love with a person you don’t really know e.g. young teenage girls in love with One Direction or Justin Bieber. Yes it may be romantic and “like the movies” to fall in love at first sight but in the end reality has a surefire way of slapping you in the face with stuff like this. With these emotions, ideas start to form about this person and a certain image of this person is painted out (in your head). This image is basically your interpretation of this person which up to know you have filled with many amazing and perfect things to make this person an image of perfection.
So what happens later on in your relationship with this person? Well if I’m completely infatuated with a concept in my environment then if I come across any new information that could shatter this concept and my perfect world what is the natural human reaction? Suppression! Yes it is true, look at your life and think about all those moments in your life that you think completely different about now opposed to the mind set you had during that moment. You’ll realise that there are times where we found out numerous bits of information that could crack and shatter our perfect ignorance on a matter but instead of accepting it we tend to put the information to one side and carry it round with you. This sort of suppression can be seen in so many people’s life whether it be in work where you may suppress any crazy ideas of going traveling or changing careers or in love where there are occurrences that tell you that you are not right for each but all these occurrences and informative events are suppressed by some sort of human defensive mechanism that allows us to keep on living that ignorant life.
But hey, don’t get me wrong I’m not such a pessimist to believe that this happens to all people madly in love as that’s simply not true. I guess I’m just trying to share some of my experience which is to simply look at what your body is telling you. More times than not your sub-conscience will try to tell you something, all you have to do is listen. In my case, believe it or not, I started to get such intense pain in my right side of my face in the last month of two of my intense relationship. At first I thought it was some kind of nasty disease I caught from those dirty London underground tubes and buses. But later on I found it was because some parts of the day and the night I had been tensing my entire jaw and grinding my teeth due to this unbelievable amount of suppressed stress. My body had been screaming out to me that was something was wrong, I just had simply chose to ignore it.
A great quote from the Matrix movie that I think applies well to this topic is when the character Cypher wished to be re-plugged back into the Matrix as I now that he has seen reality he wishes to go back to his ‘fake’ and artificial life back in the Matrix:
… Ignorance is bliss.
That we as a human species have a lot of physiological mechanisms that we use on a daily basis to get through our lives. Wow… that sounds very profound but It is extremely true and think it is imperative that we should always question our actions and these mechanisms as they may not do what is especially the best for us.
As for me and my broken heart, well the only thing you can do is take it as an experience and learn from it. The annoying thing is that the experiences and events that you learn from the most in your life are (most of the time) the bad ones.
So I guess in conclusion what I’m really trying to say is that “Bitches be crazy“…
- Our World. Our Choice. (lucyyu.wordpress.com)